Tuesday, March 29, 2005

The Day The BF Became An Officer

Ok lah! I'm sure you all know that my boyfriend was never an officer, and instead spent his two years of NS lounging around in Tekong's Foxtrot Company's armskote and store, and occasionally napping in his Encik's and CO's air-conditioned office (he was their blue-eyed boy for some reason, so he generally got away with a lot of stuff that other permanent staff couldn't), being a storeman.

Of course, his girlfriend, that is, ME, was devastated when he became a chao keng kia storeman. I had envisioned The BF dressed in the No. 1, receiving his Sword of Merit, and becoming commissioned as an officer, while I looked on proudly from the stands and later walked even more proudly on his arm at the Commissioning Ball (or whatever that dinner-and-dance thingy for commissioned officers is called).

I'd spun my grandoise fantasies of having a macho handsome officer boyfriend to the extent of imagining The BF barking orders at poor, unhappy recruits, privates, sergeants, and even warrant officers.

Who knows, he had to spoil it all by getting himself dumped into the Foxtrot store. His rationalised that storemen are incredibly important to the Army, because they're the ones doling out food supplies and battle equipment, and in the case of a war, should the storemen all desert or get killed, the entire army would be crippled, but it wasn't much consolation to me. I merely snapped at him, "And what are the chances of Singapore going to war in the next 2 years, you bum?"

He also pointed out that being a storeman gave him lots of chances to nap and talk to me on the phone while everyone else out there was slogging it out, and getting burnt and dirtied. I gave him my haughtiest, most condescending look and said, "So you think napping in your store constitutes being useful?"

But unbeknownst to both of us, there would come a day when The BF would "become an officer" for a brief few minutes, and it was partially thanks to me.

That day, I was on the phone with The BF. We were having a heated quarrel, though what it was about, I can't remember. So he was in an extremely foul mood, and looking for a lamppost or some other inanimate object to take his bad temper out on (being a private at that time, he had no more power than a recruit and couldn't vent his anger on humans).

We were still arguing on the phone, when he walked into the perm staff toilet. Now, for the benefit of those who are female, the perm staff toilets are reserved only for the permanent staff stationed on Tekong, and no recruits are allowed to enter them. He was also dressed only in shorts and nothing else, having just finished napping in his bunk (this is the life of a storeman, my friends). So there was no insignia to signify his rank.

Then at that point, he said to me, "Hold on for a while."

I then heard the following conversation loud and clear (The BF was using an earpiece, and it easily picked up background voices).

BF: What the fuck you doing here?

Unknown male voices (hesitantly): Huh?

BF: Don't understand English is it? What the fuck you two doing here? Which company you from?

2 unknown chaps: Delta company.

BF: You all never listen to orders is it? Recruits cannot use perm staff toilet, what the fuck you two come in here for?

Ah-hah! I thought. The BF found something much better than a lamppost - 2 poor hapless recruits to unleash his fury on!

Recruits: Sorry Sergeant, sorry Sergeant, we really didn't know this was the perm staff toilet...

BF: Hah? What? What did you two call me? (He was honestly staggered, because he'd thought these recruits should have known he was a mere private.)

Recruits: Sorry SIR! We'll leave now, SIR!

And The BF, being the non-scheming, friendly, kind-hearted person he is, instead of correcting them, roared, "Yeah, get out now!"

I heard a clattering and the flip-flop of slippers as the terrified recruits bolted for their lives, away from this "officer" who was in such a foul mood; skarly he make them sign confinement how?

He came back on the phone, sounding grumpy still: "Yah, where were we?"

By that time, I was too convulsed by laughter to speak. All my bewildered boyfriend heard was peal after peal of happy laughter coming from me.

For those few minutes, my dream had been fulfilled. The BF had become an officer with the power to treat recruits like dogs.

25 comments:

Anonymous said...

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Sheena said...

Anonymous: Well, you can't have been that bored, because you obviously read through my entire post before wasting time and space commenting... if that can even be called a comment.

So I say to you now: Motherfucker, if you don't like my posts/blog/whatever, don't be a masochist and read them. Bloody hum chee anonymous rectum with no balls. Split your ass open with your fingernails if you're this bored, you lousy cocksucker.

lun said...

rofl the comment induced more laughter than the post.

Sheena said...

Lun: Which comment, mine or anonymous idiot's? (It'd better be mine. ;p)

dagger said...

Yours la by a mile. You're really mean to your bf in army you know that? First the POP now this...

Sheena said...

Dagger: Thank you. Yes, I feel my comment rocks big time, even if I do say so myself. *smug grin*

And I'm not mean to him k, these are just... errmm... expressions of my affection. Yes.

Mr Miyagi said...

hey, fack suf, you started a Blogger account with an empty blog. Looking forward to reading your stuff.

Sheena said...

Fuck SAF: Oh yes, my friend, I really do LOVE seeing people die in horrible, tragic ways, ESPECIALLY when their deaths are caused by their SAF people. *rolls eyes*

Seriously, what is your point here? Are you trying to say I'm a bitch? I don't see anything in my post that would make you think that way. And if that's your point, then you're another one who should go split your own ass open.

Or are you trying your hand at some sarcasm which is meant to be funny and not an insult to me? In that case, choose a better subject other than tragic deaths, dork.

lest-i-forget said...

wah you are very different from The Girlfriend; when i am enslaved in exactly a week's time, she wants me to be a chao slacker, so that she can spend more time with me.

Agagooga said...

Wah lao. Just one Zzzz comment and you start cursing and swearing like a fish monger's wife. You're worse than faith, man.

Sheena said...

Ahdokboy: Different people got different views mah. You should be happy that your gf loves you this much! Anyway getting enslaved in one week? You poor chap! All the best k?

Agag: The crab is in. Anyway I always knew I swear more than Faith. ;p

Anonymous said...

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eh you chao ah lian! Curse and swear so much like a pirate when you don't get the hot press you want!

Anonymous said...

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Anonymous said...

Merenwen: There is little envy in having your boyfriend or husband an officer.

I am not looking forward to living in Bruneian jungle for a few years when my husband is posted there in the near future. I am not looking forward to being apart from my family and friends, putting my career on hold, being isolated from all that i'm familiar with and being mostly alone in a foreign land living on an army camp. I am not looking forward to doing nothing at "home" except playing the role of the loving military wife who washes his dirty uniform and polishes his boots while I wait alone for his return with nothing for companionship except an internet connection.

Anonymous said...

The Silent Ranks

I wear no uniforms, no blues or army greens.
But I am in the military in the ranks rarely seen.
I have no rank upon my shoulders. Salutes I do not give.
But the military world is the place where I live.

I'm not in the chain of command, orders I do not get.
But my husband is the one who does, this I cannot forget.
I'm not the ones who fires the weapon, who puts my life on the line.
But my job is just as tough. I'm the one that's left behind.

My husband is a patriot, a brave and prideful man
and the call to serve his country, not all can understand.
Behind the lines I see the things needed to keep this country free.
My husband makes the sacrifice, but so do our kids and me.

I love the man I married. Soldiering is his life.
But I stand among the silent ranks
known as the Military Wife

http://www.nightstalkers.com/nspoems/silentranks.html

Anonymous said...

wats the big deal abt officers? not being green-eyed here but seriously, just ask any specialist to do a job, and chances are he can do it better than an officer, minus the arrow-shooting, dagger-behind-the-smile etc.. officers are waaaay over-rated..

Beach-yi said...

To Military Wife:

For starters, it is not only officers with wives who get to posted to Brunei, certain specialist ranks do too.

Secondly, it is not that expensive to fly from Brunei to SIngapore if you get the pangs missing SIngapore etc.

Thirdly there are lots of things for an expat to do in Brunei if you are nature oriented and hopefully fitness oriented too.

Fourthly, if there's nothing really to do you can respond to the nation's dismal birth rates and participate to prop it up.

And about the boots, I hope thats a metaphorical way of saying stuff, cos SAF boots have greatly improved, very little polishing is needed nowadays.

Career wise, well, thats up to you and your family to talk about, shall not comment on it.

Well, I enjoyed Brunei while I was there as a perm staff and yes it was in the Jungle camp, it wasn't all sweet and sundry but it wasn't that bad too, I learned alot of things there and I hope to revisit the place in the future. (Not as a reservist though)

Best of wishes.


P.S to last anon:

Specialist aren't all that great too, they play their little politics as well.

k said...

so many mistaken impressions here...

merenwen, officership isn't about the shoulderboard - that's for fooling little ncc boys only. it's all about personality man, personality. with personality and clout you can scold anyone you like, provided you have more clout and personality than him lah, and you know what you're doing.

heard of captains scolding LTCs (2 crabs), and my spec friend regularly scolds the pilots in his unit. even told off a major who requested he redo a proposal - 7 times - and not due to any fault of his.

little envy in having your SO being an officer? change the word "officer" to "regular", and you're on the right track.

what's the big deal about officers? you're looking on the wrong side. most old birds think they're seen everything, but there's really much more to see than that. you'd have to hold a logistics appointment to even get a glimpse of the other side though. the specialists can really chiong man, but when it comes to paperwork and other responsibilities they tend to flop really badly. i've seen exceptions of course, but sadly these are only exceptions, not the norm.

officer life is glamarous only when specs are looking. responsibility is not the kind of load you'd like to bear on your shoulders. this isn't wartime, but as junior officers your word can kill people really bad, and as senior officers your words can slaughter a whole chain of people along the chain of command and destroy careers overmight.

specs discover mistakes in admin, but all they have to do is report it like it says in their job scope. the final decision lies with officers - not a choice you would want to make.

Agagooga said...

The answer is obvious - she's blinded by her uniform fetish. Duh!

Anonymous said...

Beach-yi,

thanks for your well wishes.

I understand that there are specs posted to SAF units abroad as well. I was only responding to what i perceived to be Merenwen's fascination with military personnels in general. I read past posts where some ladies were discussing their preference for uniformed personnels and army regulars, because of the macho and unintentionally sexy uniform they have to wear.

Wives generally follow their husbands on overseas postings, whether in the SAF or otherwise. It is rather difficult to maintain a family unit as a cohesive whole, and to preserve the romantic love of a couple if they're apart for an extended period of time. It is more often than not the wife who gives up her career and hitherto life to follow the husband, and not the reverse.

You might know say, what makes the military wife any different from the hordes of expatriate wives so common, with our global economy today?

The difference is, unlike the expatriate wife of an accountant or engineer, the military wife often finds herself having to locate to not a pulsating city like Shanghai or New York, but to remote Army base in the middle of a jungle in an isolated part of a usually third world country.

Unlike an expat wife, she usually finds herself being detached and lonely from everything she's ever known and used to, in a completely alien environment. And obviously, unlike the expat wife, it is impossible for her to continue working unless her previous job was a forest horticulturist.

This fascination with uniformed men is not peculiar to Singapore or the SAF. Since i married a regular, i've come to discover there is a worldwide and widespread fascination in being a military wife/girlfriend. In the west, more pointedly in the US, soldiering is very respected because their soldiers actually go to battle and engage in real life and life threatening missions quite regularly. Here, the Chinese traditional disdain for soldiering remains, hence the term Hao Er Bu Chong Bing.

I guess guys just look very cute in uniform and boots, and i've to admit i was largely attracted to my husband when he was courting me because of how he looked in his uniform.

I no longer feel excited when i see him come home in his uniform anymore like i used to, but i will always feel protected and loved, and it's nothing to do with his uniform or profession.

Anonymous said...

Delta Company? Delta Company in BMT is known as the Scholar's platoon.

Your bf the private cum most likely useless bum shouting at them would be the last time he ever gets to raise his voice at anyone from that platoon, many of whom become army generals, top civil servants and HODs in ministries/stat boards.

Hahaha!

Anonymous said...

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Merenwen: we serve NS so that bitches like you have the freedom to spew profanities shamelessly and feel smug doing so. your loser of a bf deserves you!

and if you don't have any interesting stories to tell just shut the hell up instead of trying to seek attention all the time.

Sheena said...

I find it really amusing how, when all these people proclaim to hate me, hate my blog, hate my writing, hate my army stories, yet they still continue reading me repeatedly, greedily digging up my archives and reading them all, and in general subjecting themselves to sadomasochism. Heh.

Mr Miyagi said...

Whoa there now churren, here's a suggestion: TAKE IT OUTSIDE!

lun said...

lazylurker: dude, i just need to set the record straight. dun assume, and dun u dare put words into my mouth. the reason i keep quiet is that a simple post sharing an anecdote about sheena's boyfriend's ns experience has degenerated into a mudslinging, name-calling and one-upmanship contest. this is immature and absolutely uncalled for, and i see no need for me to partake in the trading of insults. yes u're free to speak ur mind, and post comments (subject to moderation), but at the end of the day, bear in mind that whatever sheena posts on her own blog, it is still HER blog. if u're unhappy with what she writes there, i have a solution for u. just dun read. im sure no one's forcing u to do so. notice that her posts here are in rather stark contrast to her posts on her own blog. she's mature and responsible enough to recognise that it is not at her discretion to post frivolous entries here as and when she likes as this is a shared blog. if u have any objections about her posts here, u're very welcome to voice them out to the moderator of the blog. from ur comments and criticism regarding sheena and nethia, i see that u have much to learn in terms of morality and maturity.

HCJC boy: ur comment amuses me i must say. correct me if i'm wrong, but i believe that judging by ur name here, its safe to presume that u're perhaps still in HCJC, and thus a civilian. yes, it is true that delta coy's generally referred to as the scholar company in BMTC. however, it should be noted that every coy in BMTC has about 3 intakes per year, 1 of which would be the scholar intake, with a lull period in between as well. may i ask how're u so certain that the 2 recruits as mentioned in the post are from the scholar's intake, which is usually in january? allow me to inform u that delta coy is a coy staffed by warrant officers, hence referred to as a "warrant coy". and if u didn't know, hardened, ill-disciplined juvenile deliquents who've been interned at The Boy's Home are usually posted to warrant coys (delta and leopard coy) as well. this is because warrant officers are generally much more particular about, and suited for enforcing discipline in the ranks than the commissioned officers in the BMTC coys who're NSFs. the 2 afore-mentioned recruits could've well been from the "pai kia" intake. once again i have to say that one should not assume. and if u're really a civilian still, may i suggest u keep ur comments about the army to urself, for u would have had no military experience and thus unqualified to make comments and observations about the army. sure, u can argue all u want that u have friends telling u how's life like in the army, but u're a civilian still. u won't know it till u've experienced it for urself. and let me tell u this. we soldiers view with contempt greenhorn recruits and ignorant civilians who behave like they know everything about the army, when its clear that all they possess is second-hand information, much of which are unverified myths. having said that, i stand corrected, if u do turn out to be a military personnel after all. even if that's the case, i maintain that ur comment above's rather misguided.